Saturday, March 01, 2008

I have never believe in the term 'unconditional love'. Nothing to me is so-called 'unconditional'.
Even with your parents and best friends... there will always be an intangible condition, like it or not.
Of course, I would love to believe that I am wrong.
Ms-SLIM would be more than happy to bitch me to this :D HOR?


Anyway, this morning I have received an email (from Karen) and this touched me:

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How To Dance In The Rain


It was a busy morning, about 8:30, when an elderly gentleman in his 80s, arrived to have stitches removed from his thumb.

He said he was in a hurry as he had an appointment at 9:00 am. I took his vital signs and had him take a seat, knowing it would be over an hour before someone would to able to see him.

I saw him looking at his watch and decided, since I was not busy with another patient, I would evaluate his wound. On exam, it was well healed, so I talked to one of the doctors, got the needed supplies to remove his sutures and redress his wound.

While taking care of his wound, I asked him if he had another doctor's appointment this morning, as he was in such a hurry. The gentleman told me no, that he needed to go to the nursing home to eat breakfast with his wife.

I inquired as to her health. He told me that she had been there for a while and that she was a victim of Alzheimer's Disease. As we talked, I asked if she would be upset if he was a bit late. He replied that she no longer knew who he was, that she had not recognized him in five years now.

I was surprised, and asked him, And you still go every morning, even though she doesn't know who you are?'

He smiled as he patted my hand and said, 'She doesn't know me, but I still know who she is.'

I had to hold back tears as he left, I had goose bumps on my arm, and thought, 'That is the kind of love I want in my life.'

True love is neither just physical or romantic.
True love is an acceptance of all that is, has been, will be, and will not be.

The happiest people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything they have.
'Life isn't about how to survive the storm, but how to dance in the rain.'
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Conditional or unconditional, I am glad that I found mine.

7 comments:

said...

ah pui, you're so wrong! mslim is such a reasonable and gracious person <-- i also say!

on this topic, i too believe that there is no unconditional love. apparently you dont know mslim tat well.

for the old man to meet his wife even though she doesnt remember him anymore, perhaps he wants to make her day so that he feels good? even if he just wants her to have a better day, thats itself is a condition too.

the same goes for me picking up after the 6 butts at home, is conditional love - so that they have a clean toilet to poop again. so that they have a happy time growing up.

but hor, nothing personal, i so disagree with the last statement: life isnt about how to survive the storm but how to dance in the rain.

how to dance in the rain could also be a way of surviving the storm. think about it.

covantai said...

So who's the lucky chap? :)

Cupooftea said...

only a mother's love is unconditional...

Ah Kiong said...

Ay... how come now Mslim decided to change opinion liao? Last time somemore say sure got unconditional love one...

Ah Kiong said...

win: even with a mother's love is also never unconditional. Well... Maybe there is lah....

Ah Kiong said...

Mr Tai: dun pretend pretend .... pinch u!

covantai said...

Ouch! :D who? who? who? quick tell :p Kekekeke